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The year 2020 has been a wild ride. One thing after another wore down and broken the spirits of many of our fellow humans. Fearing for their lives, most people began watching the news on TV one or many times a day to find out what was going on with the so called “pandemic”. All that that accomplished was deeper and deeper programming by those members of mankind who are hijacking control of the human race. Endless restrictions have been imposed on us. Conflicting orders have swept down on us in wave after wave. This has caused most people to let go of all the control that they had over their lives while people fearfully cowed in the corner. The trauma of the psy-op has left people distrusting and negative about everything. What can you and I do about negative thinking? Learn to be an expert at not reacting to negative thoughts especially beamed at us by the media and others in our lives who have been infected by fear and negativity.
Ever notice that negative emotions, such as disappointment and anxiety, tend to make a bigger impact on us and last longer than positive emotions? If you’re someone who spends more time thinking about upsetting or bleak events in your life rather than uplifting ones, know that you’re not alone — this is called a negativity bias, and it’s something that affects most people.
Although being focused on challenges and even regrets in your life can sometimes be a good thing — considering it can help you grow and plan for the future — if you want to be happy (and who doesn’t?), then too much negativity can stand in your way.
Because our brains naturally tend to fixate on the negative, we have to consciously bring our attention toward the positive if we want to keep things in balance.
How do we do this? Below we look at ways to manage negativity bias, such as by practicing more self-awareness, gratitude and perspective-taking.
What Is Negativity Bias?
Negativity bias describes how most people tend to be impacted more by negative events in their lives than by positive ones.
The Positive Psychology website states the definition of negativity bias as “our proclivity to attend to, learn from, and use negative information far more than positive information.” This can lead to problems such as ruminating on negative thoughts, regretting past mistakes, worrying a lot about the future and feeling depressed.
What is negativity in a person exactly? Negativity is the expression of criticism of or pessimism about something.
This is the opposite of positivity, which is “the practice of being, or tendency to be, positive or optimistic in attitude.”
Negative emotions can include:
When people feel negative they are more likely to do some of the following:
- Respond to threatening stimuli in their environment
- Remember insults more so than compliments
- Dwell on the past and replay unpleasant or traumatic events
- Feel guilt and shame over past mistakes
- Feel angry and resentful toward others
- Have low self-esteem due to filtering out positive aspects of oneself
What is an example of negativity bias? Researchers sometimes use the four concepts below to unpack different types of negativity biases:
- Negative potency — Positive and negative entities hold different importance to us, even if they are experienced as being equally emotional.
- Steeper negative gradients – Negativity of bad events increases faster when they grow closer to us.
- Negativity dominance – When something is a combination of negative and positive, it usually winds up feeling mostly negative.
- Negative differentiation – Negative events are felt as being more complex and usually result in a wider variety of responses.
There are lots of everyday situations in which this type of bias makes an impact on our decision-making and behaviors. Here are some examples:
- We tend to work harder not to lose things (a negative), such as money, than we do to earn them (a positive).
- We feel more upset about losing something, such as a relationship, than we felt happy about gaining it in the first place.
- If we receive both positive and negative feedback over a project, we’re more likely to focus on the criticisms and feel disappointed.
- When we think back on events, we’re more likely to recall the details that made us feel bad than those that made us feel happy.
Where It Comes From
What causes negativity? Most researchers (but not all) believe that it’s actually built into humans as an “adaptive evolutionary function,” meaning that it helped our ancestors to survive, so it was passed down over many generations.
Essentially, focusing on the negative, such as starvation and predators, was a matter of life and death for humans living many centuries ago. A greater focus on the threatening/negative stimuli in people’s environments helped them avoid being hurt or rejected, which led to a higher chance of survival.
This in turn meant that a negativity bias got passed down as humans evolved.
Why is it sometimes easier to be negative than positive? It’s because our brains prioritize negative information and threats.
This actually helps us learn from a young age which things we should avoid so we don’t get hurt. While this adaptation is beneficial for keeping our species alive, it can unfortunately lead to poor moods, stress and many associated effects.
Another important reason why people fall into feeling negative is because of how negativity transfers easily from person to person. This phenomenon is referred to as “emotional contagion,” suggesting that poor moods can be contagious.
As the Mindful Ambition website puts it, “People who express negativity can be like emotional black holes. Everyone who comes in contact with them suffers the consequences.”
What part of the brain is responsible for negativity?
Research shows that negative emotions activate the amygdala, a structure in the brain’s limbic system that psychologists say is focused on managing fear, threats and bad news.
The limbic system plays a role in controlling many cognitive processes, and the amygdala is considered the most “primitive” part of the limbic system that governs many emotions and also motivation.
When we experience negative events, they get stored in our memories more easily than positive events. They also stay in our awareness for longer as vivid short-term memories, which helps our brains process and learn from them.
Effects of Negativity
Is being negative a bad thing? While some level of negativity in every person’s life is expected and “normal,” too much can be dangerous for your health (and for those who spend lots of time with you, too).
Negativity is linked to increased depression and anxiety, which isn’t surprising considering it makes us more likely to be regretful and fearful.
Studies have found that negativity can lead to stress-related physiological symptoms, such as increased heart rates and higher startle responses. This may make it hard to sleep, lead to changes in appetite/digestion and contribute to fatigue.
Too much negativity can also lead to problems in our relationships, trouble with decision-making and trouble with focusing/maintaining attention. When we’re overly negative it may be hard to trust people and build meaningful relationships, since we assume people are “all bad” and will let us down.
We might also be inclined to avoid risks, which limits our growth, to pass up challenges that can be good for us and to overlook constructive criticism that can ultimately help us improve.
How to Overcome Negativity Bias
So how do you get rid of negativity?
Here are some strategies for keeping a positive mindset and minimizing negativity in your life:
1. Practice Self-Awareness
First and foremost, it helps to gain awareness about how you’re feeling by observing your emotional experiences.
You can do this via practices like mindfulness meditation, a body scan, journaling or talking with someone you trust, which all involve approaching your inner experience with “nonjudgmental awareness.”
Once you’re aware of your own emotional state, it’s easier to see how a negativity bias may be playing a role. Then, with more insight you can come up with ways to turn things around.
2. Turn Down Negative Self-Talk
Challenging negative self-talk and replacing it with positive self-talk instead is a great way to start improving your outlook and self-esteem. You can do this by “talking to yourself like you would a friend.”
For every criticism you have of yourself running through your mind, try to replace it with one or more affirmations focusing on something you’re proud of. You can also use this same strategy when it comes to flipping negative recurring thoughts that you have about others.
Keep in mind that whatever you’re feeling, it’s likely only temporary since emotions are always shifting. You don’t need to force away negative feelings, but you can slow down and observe the thoughts contributing to your emotions rather than acting on them impulsively.
3. Focus on Gratitude and Look for the Positives
When something bad happens in your life, is there a way you can restructure and reframe the experience to look at the upside or “silver lining”? Perhaps you can find a hidden lesson associated with a challenging event that is actually something to be grateful for.
Here are some steps you can take to focus more on the positives in your life:
- Keep a daily gratitude journal. Try to engage fully in joyful experiences, and then record them that day to help you savor and remember them.
- Limit your exposure to news coverage, which usually focuses most on attention-grabbing problems in the world.
- Write down compliments that people give you, and store them in a “positivity” folder.
- Work with a therapist trained in cognitive behavioral therapy who can help you reframe your thoughts. For example, your therapist may help you learn how to label the process of thinking so you can get some space between you and your negative thoughts.
- A combination of all of the above can be used with EFT/Tapping very effectively.
Another way to potentially curb negativity is to pay attention to your body language and facial expressions. For example, standing up straight and smiling can actually help lift your mood and make you more confident when handling challenges.
4. Give Others the Benefit of the Doubt
It’s easy to harp on insults and take negative comments personally, but as much as possible, keep in mind that other people’s emotions and opinions usually have little to do with you.
When someone makes you feel badly about yourself/your life, assume that the person is suffering in some way and isn’t intentionally hurting you. Try practicing compassion and work on perspective-taking — this way you’re less likely to overreact and to stay fixated on the negative.
5. Try to Avoid Spreading Negativity to Others
When you do inevitably feel down, try to avoid spreading your feelings to others. It’s beneficial to talk out your problems, but you don’t need to blame others or take your anger out on them.
If you’re in a bad mood and want to prevent yourself from spreading it to others, distraction can sometimes help. To help you from overanalyzing your thoughts and letting them continue to drag you down, try doing something that makes you feel calmer, such as reading, working out, going for a walk outside, cleaning your house or doing something creative like singing and dancing.
6. Work with a Health Coach.
- A negativity bias describes how, as humans, we pay more attention to negative/threatening things in our environments than to positive ones.
- What causes negativity bias? It’s believed to be “hard wired” in humans as an evolutionary adaptation, since it helped our ancestors survive. While it’s natural and has some advantages, it can also increase depression, stress and anxiety.
- How do you stop negativity bias? Some exercises to help decrease it and boost positivity include keeping a gratitude journal, meditation/self-awareness practices, talking to a coach or therapist, reframing thoughts, savouring enjoyable moments, learning not to take things so personally, and writing down compliments and achievements.
People die of fright and live off
If you have no confidence in self, you
are twice defeated in the race of life.
With confidence, you have won even
before you have started.
When you have confidence, you can do anything.
Confidence is contagious. So is lack of confidence.
If you have no confidence in self, you
are twice defeated in the race of life.
With confidence, you have won even
before you have started.
The real gift of gratitude is that the
more grateful you are, the more
present you become.
Love is not what you want, it is what you are. It is very important to not get these two confused. If you think that love is what you want, you will go searching for it all over the place. If you think love is what you are, you will go sharing it all over the place. The second approach will cause you to find what the searching will never reveal.
Your task is not to seek for love,
but merely to seek and find all
the barriers within yourself that
you have built against it. This involves
mindfull self observation and investigation.
Meditation and journal writing are
tools that can help you in the process.
Shingles natural treatment is a really worthwhile topic, especially when you consider that every year, one million Americans experience a shingles outbreak. In the U.S. alone, one in three people are said to be affected by shingles at some point in his or her lifetime. Shingles are known for causing nerve pain, itching, fever and fluid-filled blisters. A weakened immune system can make shingles more likely to occur and can also make symptoms of shingles worse.
Shingles is caused by the same virus as chickenpox. In fact, shingles occur in approximately 10 percent of people who previously had chickenpox. There is also an age factor with shingles risk. Unfortunately, the older you get the higher your risk of shingles. Roughly half of all shingle cases occur in people who are 50 or older.
Thankfully, there is shingles natural treatment, including foods you should eat to boost your immune system as well as foods you should avoid. Plus there are essential oils for shingles and a variety of options when it comes to natural supplements. Overall, anything you can do to boost your immune system can go a long way both to prevent and naturally treat an unpleasant case of shingles.
Today, shingles is usually treated with a combination of medications, which are used to lower the severity of pain and help the scabs heal more quickly. However, many people have also successfully turned to alternative therapies to lower their odds of getting shingles in the first place, building up their immunity and managing pain. Several studies have investigated the efficacy of complementary and alternative medicines in reducing the pain of nerve damage left over after shingles. Alternative approaches that seem to offer hope for managing long-term pain with few side effects include:
- improving someone’s diet to foster better gut health/immunity
- neural therapy
- using antiviral essential oils (such as oregano oil or peppermint)
- the Traditional Chinese Medicine practice of cupping and bleeding
- the use of Chinese herbs and adaptogens
According to studies done since the 1990s, all of these strategies have shown some benefit in reducing pain symptoms and other shingles symptoms, even when used without standard or conventional prescription treatments. One study published in the Journal of Therapeutics found that alternative therapies combined with selected medications, showed an average pain reduction of 72.1 percent to 77 percent in patients with herpes zoster. Almost two-thirds of the 56 patients with long-term pain reported pain reductions of between 75 percent and 100 percent.
Shingles Symptoms Takeaways
- Shingles is a painful skin virus that emerges after someone has chickenpox, following a reactivation of the virus called “varicella zoster” (VZV) that has been dormant for some time.
- Almost one out of three people will develop shingles during a lifetime. As you get older, your risk goes up, since studies show that most people (over half) who develop shingles are over the age of 60.
- What are some of the most common risk factors for developing shingles symptoms? These include older age, having a weak immune system or poor gut health, a history of a disease that affects the immune system, being under a lot of stress, and taking certain prescriptions, among others.
- If you notice a rash but aren’t sure if it’s shingles or something else, the fact that shingles develops on either the left or right side of the body, but not both, is a good indicator that the rash is not due to another illness. This one-sided trait makes shingles different than most rashes caused by things like bug bites, food reactions or beauty product allergies.
- Unfortunately even after the rash clears up after about two to four weeks, pain might still be experienced for up to several more weeks as the nerves recalibrate and recover from the virus. This is called “postherpetic neuralgia” (PHN) and is considered to be the most common complication of shingles.
- Common risk factors for shingles symptoms include older age, especially being over 60; being a woman; having a history of a disease that affects the immune system; receiving an organ transplant; taking drugs that affect the immune system; having a family history of shingles; being Caucasian; experiencing injuries or nerve damage; and stress and poor gut health.
- Unlike chickenpox, shingles normally isn’t considered a contagious virus.
What Is Shingles?
Shingles (herpes zoster) is a medical condition in which the sufferer experiences a rash or blisters on the skin. It’s caused by the varicella-zoster virus — the same virus that causes chickenpox. Shingles can remain in one area of the body (localized zoster) or it can spread (disseminated zoster). Many people wonder why having chicken pox doesn’t provide shingles immunity. According to medical experts, once you have chicken pox, it is a virus that stays in your body. For most of us, the virus remains dormant causing no issues. However, some people have their virus reactivated, especially at times of weakened immune function, and this is when a shingles outbreak occurs.
Shingles usually only affects a small area of just one side of the body and pain is the common initial symptom of shingles. A few days later, you may likely see a red rash, but not always since some people have pain without a rash. Do shingles itch? Yes, they can definitely itch. In addition to pain and itching, having shingles can also result in burning, numbness, sensitivity to touch, and/or tingling in the affected area. Shingles blisters filled with fluid are also common. People with shingles can also experience fever, headaches, fatigue or light sensitivity.
Even though shingles are most common on the left or right side of the torso, it is possible to have shingles on the face. Again, it’s usually around one side of the face or neck or even around one eye.
Shingles duration is most often between three to five weeks. The majority of people will only experience shingles one time, but it is possible to get shingles on multiple occasions.
The people most at risk for developing shingles include those:
- With a weakened immune system (such as someone with cancer)
- Older than 50 years of age
- Who have been recently ill
- Under excessive stress
- Have experienced major trauma
Shingles Natural Treatment
Clearly shingles is no fun, but the good news is that shingles natural treatment is not hard to do, not expensive and the following suggestions can all be done in the comfort of your own home. Much of shingles natural treatment is aimed at boosting the immune system since shingles is caused by a virus.
Top Foods for Shingles
Foods high in B-vitamins — The nervous system is under attack by the shingles virus; therefore, it’s important to include foods high in B-vitamins such as grass-fed beef, cultured dairy, eggs, organic chicken and wild-caught fish.
Water — Adequate hydration is the key to flushing out the virus from your system. Try to drink a glass every 2 hours.
Garlic and onions — Both raw garlic and onion contain allicin, which can help boost immune function.
Foods rich in vitamin C — Add orange and yellow fruits and vegetables to increase your vitamin C intake, which will help to boost your immune system and speed healing.
Green leafy vegetables — These vegetables are high in beta-carotene and calcium, which can boost immune function.
Foods to Avoid For Faster Healing
Sugar — Decreases white blood cells that help fight off infection.
Fruit juices — Although orange juice contains some vitamin C, it is not as high in vitamin C as whole fruits or vegetables.
Caffeine — Depletes the body of hydration, so avoid it.
Carbonated beverages — These beverages promote a more acidic system, so try to limit them during the acute illness.
Fried foods — Promotes an acidic environment, so best to avoid these foods.
#1 Vitamin C (1,000mg 3-4x daily)
Helps with immune system function and boosts white blood cells. Intravenous C plus oral can lead to remission in 72 hours.
#2 Echinacea (500 mg 3x daily)
Echinacea is an herb known for helping the body fight off infections and viruses.
#3 Oregano oil (500mg 2x daily)
Oil of Oregano has a powerful antiviral effect.
#4 Vitamin B12 (1000-5000 mcg daily)
Vitamin B12 helps promote faster recovery and reduced pain. Injectible works best.
#5 Zinc (50 mg daily)
Zinc supports immune function and has an antiviral effect. It works best when taken at the first sign of illness.
#6 Vitamin E .Oral and topical.
#7 Adenosine Monophosphate. Injection.
#8 Capsaicin Cream. Topical.
#9 Fish Oil.
# 10 Monolaurin.
# 11 Grapefruit Seed extract.
# 12 Echinacea.
# 14 Elderberry/ rosemary/ olive leaf/ St Johns Wort/ Avena Sativa/ valerian/ skullcap/ Hops
# 15 Lysine.
# 16 ALA
# 17 Hydrogen Peroxide Gel
#19 Green clay
# 20 Activated Charcoal.
# 21 Tens
# 22 Vitamin B1 and B6.
# 23 Magnesium Glycinate.
# 24 Olive Leaf Extract.
# 25 MMS.
Geranium Essential Oil
Geranium essential oil has been studied and shown to actually reduce pain due to post-herpetic neuralgia (PHN) following a shingles outbreak. With topical application, essential oil of geranium has been shown to relieve painful sensations within mere minutes. It even outperformed topical capsaicin, which is often recommended for shingles pain, but can take weeks to improve the pain.
Other essential oil options for shingles natural treatment include:
- Tea tree essential oil
- Lemongrass essential oil
- Lavender essential oil
- Peppermint essential oil
- Black cumin seed oil
- Origanum Oil
You can take 2 drops of an essential oil and mix it with 1/4 teaspoon of coconut oil and rub it on areas of shingles pain. It’s a good idea to perform a patch test on a less sensitive area of skin to make sure you don’t have a negative reaction to the essential oil. You can also diffuse these essential oils for their antiviral benefits.
Other Natural Treatments
Applying honey topically to shingles rash is another scientifically-backed shingles natural treatment. A 2012 in vitro study showed that both manuka honey, as well as clover honey, showed significant antiviral activity against varicella-zoster virus. Simply apply the honey directly to problem areas a few times per day.
Colloidal Oatmeal Baths
A shingles natural treatment that doesn’t cost a lot, but can really help with the common shingles symptom of itching, is bathing in water infused with colloidal oatmeal. Make sure the bath is on the cooler side since hot water will only make itching worse.
You can use cool, wet compresses on shingles blisters to reduce their fire. These cooling compresses can help with shingles pain, sensitivity and itching. It’s a shingles natural treatment that only requires some running water and a wash cloth. Just make sure to change the wash cloth with each session.
According to Mayo Clinic, reducing stress in your life as much as possible is actually a key shingles natural treatment. This lifestyle change can help to prevent and treat shingles since stress reduction is such an overall immune system and health booster.